The daily life of a dominatrix

The daily life of a dominatrix

Being Dominatrix, The simple life?

The daily life of a Dominatrix. In the imagination, one could assume that the daily life of a Dominatrix is ​​a simple life. It would be enough for me to snap my fingers to make Monsieur Propre appear and that in an instant, the parquet floor would be swept, vacuumed and waxed. Otherwise, I just have to phone in my directory of submissives to have vacations in the four corners of France. Finally, when your session is over, I just have to go about my business by going shopping, sunbathing or going out for a drink.

Unfortunately, the daily life of a Dominatrix does not resemble any point with this first paragraph. Besides, it’s a life that we would all dream of, isn’t it? This is the reason why, in this article, I propose to take you into my daily life. Fasten your seatbelts, because, I warn you, it’s life at 100 per hour 👩‍🚀🚀

You will also understand, at the end of this article, that sometimes I do not respond immediately to your many requests. I may be in a day where I breathe to be able to fully welcome you. So when I receive text messages with the one and only message “?” or “No answer”, it tends to annoy me… And to make you wait even longer… The submissive is you, don’t forget that!

The life of a professional dominatrix :

In my old life, I had a fairly stressful position of responsibility. However, with my life as a dominatrix, I believe that I will be able to return to my old branch. All this without ever feeling any tension even when my colleagues were fidgeting like fleas 😅

Firstly, concerning the practices 🏏 If it existed, I think of obtaining the honorary degree of a Master in maneuverability and whip management. But the profession is not concentrated through activities that take place during the session. In fact, I could also be a sexologist, therapist and psychologist.

I always have the habit of talking with my submissives before and after each session. I also believe that I have a very therapeutic approach in my profession. Which, in itself, totally suits me, having always enjoyed helping others. In reality, being a dominatrix is ​​not only about knowing how to handle the whip, but about being an ace in human psychology. Managing a person you have at your feet sometimes requires a lot of energy. Suffice to say that after a day of domination, I am completely down! 😴

Daily life ? Dominatrix, Psychologist, Therapist, Artist…

At first, it is a very artistic and graphic profession. We appeal to the imagination, to fantasy and to a lot of images and codified representations. If you’re not already a little crazy in your head, it might be complicated (a little wink for those who would be interested in this exciting job). Consequently, it is a universe in which the limits are those of the imagination and require a natural creative spirit. A simple glass of water can become an incredible game. Dominating doesn’t consist of dragging your little doggie on a leash! It is a question of creating a universe, of materializing its imprint in order to succeed in captivating the spirit of the submissive in front of you. And since each person is different, you have to adapt to all of human diversity 🤓

I hold the role of master of the game. I inspire desire and fear, sensuality and anguish, beauty and strength. In reality, I embody subtle values ​​that are totally opposite. My character, perched on high heels, must have an appropriate phrasing, display a presence worthy of my role as well as a perfect mastery of the environment… even on bad days! 😉

As far as I’m concerned, I don’t judge the people I receive, I have to tell you, I’m probably much more twisted than the majority of my submissives 😅 But it’s a job that’s closer to humans. I always look my submissives in the eye because I am searching and trying to penetrate the soul of my playmate! In fact, I give a lot emotionally!

A second profession… Psychologist

In the field of classical non-heteronormative sexuality, the second area to understand is… psychology! This is also the most important part of Domina’s job, you have to know how to identify the person you have in front of you. Because it is once again, to dominate by the spirit, the action is only a theatrical and imaged reflection of a remark (Are you still following? 🤗😵)

You have to know right away the type of person you are receiving and their “unexpressed” requests. Shy or Outgoing, Need to be controlled, let go, or both? Ashamed or proud? Friendly or timorous? BDSM being unique to everyone, it is an absolute necessity to quickly know and understand the person in front of us. Because, although I have chosen to be Dominatrix in my daily life, the fact remains that I cannot do what I want. This is an exchange in which I will take power but considering all that you are and expect deep down. Should I be sensual or authoritarian? Friendly or gentle in activities? A whole bunch of questions that need to be defined quickly when I see you.

Some have problems with loneliness, shame, the secret of not being able to experience this with their partner… for fear of being misjudged. My duty as a dominatrix is ​​also to listen to them, to bring them an ear that does not judge them, on the contrary. I love helping people, and I love the idea of ​​helping my subs even more. Here again, this requires a good dose of psychology and mental strength!

The typical daily life of a Professional Dominatrix:

When you decide to become a Dominatrix, you have to start thinking that we are not governed by office hours. In fact, I do not count my hours. In reality, it’s not about welcoming you, closing the door after our date and glued to the TV asking my husband for a Pina Colada. 🍸

Firstly, a necessity: a healthy lifestyle! Secondly, an obligation: dynamism! Finally… a summary: be alternative!

My days start early! You have to check emails, respond to requests, manage your schedule, psychologically deal with weird, twisted people and those who make inappropriate advances. Then, you have to call those who need to be reassured or who have questions to make an appointment. Then, respond to the texts of the day. As an aside, just so you can see, I send 6,000 text messages a month!! 😅😥

Then comes the time for appointments. Just before the vacuum cleaner, the disinfection of the toys (Lanyard by thong! 😪), of the room before your arrival. Then comes the moment of my preparation, the shower, the hair, the make-up, the outfit that I will choose for your session. Finally, comes the moment that you all know, the welcome, the coffee and the discussion to quietly start our session after your shower 😄. The session is over, here we go again, disinfection, sterilization, vacuuming, showering, cleaning the bathroom thoroughly 😅.

Once gone, my day does not end there, I juggle between sessions and secretarial work and respond to text messages / e-mails received during the session. I consult the platforms Instagram, Twitter, Onlyfans, Xhamster, Vends-Ta-Culotte… A life at 100 per hour I tell you!

Finally the secretariat (which doesn’t really stop to tell the truth ^^), and accounting (glasses and calculator out 😏🤓). Finally, the hygiene of the room, the washing machines (one a day 😏, but it’s well known, women are naturally fetishists of washing machines… 😈💀), my days are ending… Late.

Outside the sessions :

You should know that my daily life as a Dominatrix is ​​not taboo. Everyone around me knows. Quite simply because this life sometimes takes up more space than my “normal” life. Some of you who have come to see me know my husband, my little maid. None of you have ever seen him in uniform. One thing is certain, it is that when I finish my days, I want to rest and clearly don’t really want to continue “playing”. I remain a woman and need calm and rest. 🤗😴

However, even when I take a day off, I have to respond to requests by text and email. These days, I finally rarely get out of my dominatrix skin. I will play sports, buy tights to replace those that have slipped away, take the time to see what new outfits could be added to my wardrobe, look at toys to buy to offer you something new, etc. When we see our friends or our family, they have a lot of questions about this original life that need to be answered. We joke, we are surprised but we talk about it. Dominatrice’s daily life does not stop.

To conclude, I have never been so happy to practice domination as a professional. But what is certain is that it is a profession that we choose only because we are passionate about it. Otherwise, I think it is difficult for anyone to face the complexity of this craft and the skills it requires to be able to wield with brilliance what is clearly not just a whip!

Mistress Julia, passionate about all the skills required. Passionately living her daily life as a dominatrix.

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